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A gift in trying times

There are always gifts to be found in trying times. Finding these gifts, is the secret to surviving the extreme emotional challenges facing all earthlings at the present time.  The greatest gift we are afforded currently is probably TIME.  How often have you wished for more TIME?  Time to just be.  Time to chill, time…
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March 24, 2020 0
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Healing the emotional wounds caused by narcissistic relationships

Talk presented to the Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse support group in Bryanston, Johannesburg How do we heal the emotional wounds created by living in the shadow of either emotionally deficient narcissistic parents, or narcissistic partners?   Step 1 One needs to firstly realize and accept that one’s parent or partner is a narcissist.  One needs…
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January 16, 2020 0
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The ugly face of narcissism II

John’s story – part 2 Written by John   My Father is a Narcissist I often doubted myself when labelling my father as a narcissist.  One just doesn’t want it to be true. But the more I thought and learnt about it, the clearer the picture became. There are therapists who argue that lack of…
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November 15, 2019 0

The ugly face of narcissism

I often overhear the word “narcissist” in conversations. In my opinion the word is often misused, or at least overused. The word “narcissistic” is used as a substitute for words like “selfish, ego-centric and self- centred”. Not all selfish people are narcissists, though…. It is possible for people to have narcissistic traits without being full-blown…
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September 25, 2019 0

Onskuldige oe in ‘n wereld vol pornografie

Onskuldige oë in ‘n wêreld vol pornografie – Anja van den Berg Dis nie meer ‘n kwessie van óf nie, maar wanneer, se dr. Gail Dines, ‘n professor in sosiologie en vrouestudies aan die Wheelock College in Boston, Amerika, wat in die studie van pornografie spesialiseer.  Kinders so jonk as agt word aan eksplisiete seksuele…
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August 2, 2019 0
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The courage to be imperfect

  Why are we so afraid of being vulnerable, of being our authentic selves, of allowing ourselves to be seen…deeply seen?   What are those parts of ourselves that we are afraid of showing, those chapters of our life story that we never share?    The simple truth is that we believe there to be parts of…
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May 20, 2019 0
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Owning my Truth

This is the incredible story of an amazing soul called Julian Turner.  It is about him owning his truth, all parts of his truth.  It is about being real.  It is about being brave enough to be vulnerable and as a beautiful reward finding the portal to true connection and belonging.  “I can remember as…
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December 21, 2018 0

Depression from a patient’s perspective

I have asked some of my patients whether they are willing to share their personal experience of mental illness. Reason being that so many people are ignorant as far as mental illness is concerned. Unfortunately, ignorance is the breeding ground for judgement. My hope is that the sharing of these personal experiences will help to…
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September 17, 2018 0

The Experience of Connectedness

How do I contend with the soul destroying feeling of not being good enough, the feeling that I have to perform to have worth? How do I change being consumed by feelings of not belonging and loneliness, even when surrounded by friends and family? How do I modify always feeling like the outsider? How do…
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July 12, 2018 0

The Delusion of Separateness

We come from love. Using hypnosis, I often regress clients back to the time before they were aware of being in their mother’s wombs, back to “there” where they come from.  Where they come from (their origin) is always described as love – a radiant, warm, loving, accepting light.  In this light they feel fulfilled,…
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May 28, 2018 0