Narcissism

Healing the psychological injuries of the Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents

Before we start….

  • Please print the pdf document before starting with video 1.
  • Have your pdf document handy as you watch the video clips and work through the course, filling in the necessary as you go along.
  • There are 24 sections which follow each other sequentially.
  • Set aside time, at least twice a week, to work through this course.
  • Find a private and safe space in which to complete your course.
  • Should you, after completing this course, feel that you need additional assistance, my pledge to you is that I will give you a R650 credit on your first face-to-face session with me.
  • Remember that your subscription is only valid for 3 months, so get going!
  • Embrace your journey towards growth and healing!

1.

Video Clip no 1

My Parent the Narcissist

 

2.

Video Clip no 2

My Psychological Injuries

 

 

3.

Video Clip no 3

–  Starting my healing process by showing up for myself

 

4.

Video Clip no 4

–  “How do I heal my psychological wounding?  The aim of this course.

 

 

5.

Video Clip no 5

– Changing how you think, feel and react to your childhood trauma using Brain Working Recursive Therapy (BWRT)

-Identifying the worst memory, the preferred memory and the future memory 

–  What to expect during the BWRT SESSION

6.

Video Clip no 6

The BWRT SESSION

 

7.

Now,  continue to address all your other trauma memories with regards to your childhood, each time replaying video clip no 6.  However, it has been shown that it in the best interest of healing to not focus on more than 2 trauma /worst memories per day.

 

8.

Now it’s time for some inner child work.  We are going to reclaim your wounded inner child, the child within you who’s development was arrested at certain developmental stages.  This will be achieved by doing 5 meditations.  The 1st meditation is focussed on reclaiming your infant self – age 0-9 months (Video Clip No 7)  The 2nd meditation focusses on reclaiming your toddler self -9months – 3 years (Video Clip No 8), the 3rd meditation on reclaiming your preschool self (Video Clip No 9) and the 4th meditation on reclaiming your school-age self- 6 years – puberty (Video Clip No 10).  We are also going to do a 5th meditation involving your adolescent self (Video Clip No 11).

 

Before we do the meditations…

  • These meditations were written by John Bradshaw and taken from his book “Homecoming- reclaiming and championing your inner child” (1990) . 
  • The longest meditation is 17 min .
  • Sit in a comfortable chair, with your arms and legs uncrossed, or lie down, preferably with headphones on, in a quiet, safe space where you can be private.
  • You can stop the meditation at any time should you feel overwhelmed.

We all perceive, although we do it differently.  If you are visual, you will find that it will be easy for you to visualise whatever you are asked to see, during the meditation.  however, not all of us are visual.  Some of us are more auditory, so we will tend to focus more on what we hear, and some of us are more kinesthetic, which means that we perceive through the felt sense.  So, do not be concerned if you can’t visualise – you will perceive in your own way. Please don’t have any performance anxiety. There is no right or wrong.

9.

Video Clip no 7

Meditation 1 – Reclaiming your infant self (0-9 months)

 

10.

Video Clip no 8

Meditation 2 – Reclaiming your Toddler Self (9 months – 3 years)

 

11.

Video Clip no 9

Meditation 3- Reclaiming your Pre-school self

 

12.

Video Clip no 10

Meditation  4 – Reclaiming your School-age self (6 years – puberty)

 

13.

Video Clip no 11

Meditation 5 –  Healing your adolescent

 

14.

Video Clip no 12

Addressing and Overcoming Negative Beliefs

 

15.

You have probably identified many negative beliefs.  Now decide which negative belief you want to change first – the one that resonates most with you. 

In the  video clip to follow – Video Clip no 13 –  I give the instructions on how to deal with each of your identified negative beliefs:

 

16.

Video Clip no 13

Clearing Negative Beliefs Using Tapping

 

 

17.

Video Clip no 14

Identifying the Positive Opposites of Negative Beliefs

18.

Video Clip no 15

Replacing Negative Beliefs with their Positive Opposites

 

19.

If you originally identified more than one negative belief, now is the time to address the others.  Choose which limiting belief to focus on next, and replay Video Clip no 13.

 

20.

Now, identify the opposite positive belief to your identified negative belief, and repeat video clip no 15.

 

21.

Repeat the above until you have removed and replaced all the negative beliefs that you have identified with their positive alternatives.  My suggestion is however that you only focus on 1 or 2 limiting beliefs per day.  It is important to allow your psyche time to process the new information.

 

22.

Video Clip no 16

Letting Go

 

23.

Video Clip no 17

How does My Narcissistic Parent Behave Towards Me as an Adult?

 

24.

Video Clip no 18

Moving forward